I Like Silly Acronyms
Our Paths Cross
Published on December 19, 2004 By Danny Bassette In Personal Relationships
       I first met WILMA (Woman I Love More then Anything) and her husband online in Asheron's Call. At the time they were sharing an account, so I don't know which one I really met first, although I suspect it was her husband. I believe we first ran into each other in early December of 1999. In early January they got a second computer pc and another Asheron's Call account as well. So then we could all play together, was great fun.
       Towars the end of January we realized that we lived in the same town, about a mile away from each other. Was rather funny, they were going to dinner at the local restaurant and I recognized the name. So we decided to get together and visit (not that night, at a future time).
       I can still remember the first time I saw her. I had walked over to their apartment, and it was winter so I had my big black coat on. He opened the door and said hi, she was coming out of the kitchen. Looking back on it I think I fell in love with her the moment I saw her, although I didn't realize it at the time. One of their cats took the opportunity to jump into my face, which was rather distracting. So with the distraction it took me quiet some time to realize how I felt, in fact I didn't realize it until May or so.
       Over the next few months the three of us spent lots of time together, both online and off. They were both my vassals in game and we would spend 4 hours or so playing a day. And once a week or so we would get together. I'd make pizza, they would make lasagna, we'd go out for ice cream, things like that. Usually involving food, wonder if that meant anything.
       Things were going well until I found out she wasn't happy in their marriage. Up until that point I was happy calling them friends and saw no problems. When I found out there were problems I tried to help, it's what I do. I had no intention of making things worse, I was trying to be a good friend. But as the saying goes, the road to hell is paved with good intentions...

Comments
on Dec 19, 2004
o dear, that could pose a problem.

I have no advice on the situation, but I will say ILSA also .

You seem fun!

Trinitie
on Dec 19, 2004

^^^^^the above comment was left by me, I forgot to sign off my sisters name.  Sorry.

Trinitie

on Dec 19, 2004
Thanks Trinitie, but this is all over at this point, advice isn't needed. I'm just trying to tell the story of what happened and how it has effected my life. And I was wondering about the usernames, thanks for explaining
on Dec 19, 2004
In the beginning, were you closer to her or her husband? Did he express unhappiness in the marriage? Did she end up pitting you against her husband?
on Dec 19, 2004
       Good questions iamheather. In the start I think I was mildly closer to him, but if so it was slight and didn't last long. Until things started going badly in the spring I would say I was equally close to both of them. The only unhappiness he expressed (at least as far as I could tell) was that she was unhappy with the marriage. Or put differently, he put the problem back on her. I don't think she pit me against him, but I have been known to be oblivious to things in the past.
       In writing this I'm trying to tell what happened in certain timeframes. Last article was stuff about Asheron's Call to set the stage for this one. This one was December 99 til the end of winter. Next, well I'm thinking that will be spring/summer of 2000, but since I havn't written that yet I could change my mind. I'm trying to pace myself, I dont' want my emotions to overwhelm me here. But having said that, you can ask questions, nothing wrong with that.
on Dec 19, 2004
I always seem to be one step behind you two. Heather asked the same questions I would've. I imagine that it's probably not the easiest topic for you to talk about, but I hope it helps you to write about it. Thanks for shedding some light, for those of us who want to understand.

Oh!...ok Thanks for answering the questions. I'm glad you're 'pacing' yourself, and I think it's very wise.
on Dec 19, 2004
Your right Hamster, this isn't the easiest topic for me to talk about. But talking about it here helps since I know there are people that care. I think it will help me to write it out and think about it for the first time again. And at the same time it will help those that want to understand me better do so.
on Dec 19, 2004

But talking about it here helps since I know there are people that care. I think it will help me to write it out and think about it for the first time again

Yes, there are people here who care, myself included. I think it will be theraputic for you to relay the story. I also think it will be theraputic for you to hear how others you care about see the situation, in an objective, nonjudgemental way.

Take your time...we will be here.

on Dec 19, 2004
This is shaping up to be a very interesting story Danny. I don't really have any comments right now, but just wanted you to know I am following it.
on Dec 19, 2004
iamheather: Yes, other peoples opinions are good to hear. Although I think you're off a bit, I think someone that cares is no longer truly objective. Their caring makes them biased towards supporting those they care about. Which I don't see as being a bad thing, so alls good.
BlueDev: Well I wasn't aiming for an interesting story, it's what happened (or as close as I can remember it). I'm glad your enjoying it though
on Dec 19, 2004

Although I think you're off a bit,

And this is news?

on Dec 20, 2004
Danny... don't let one uncomfortable situation stop you from helping others in the future.... you are doing a great job of it!